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Have you ever finally confronted someone who treated you badly for years?

Discussion in 'Fred's Barcalounge' started by ZackyDog, Feb 13, 2018.

  1. ZackyDog

    ZackyDog Country Gent

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    And if you did, did you feel like it was a weight off your shoulders?
     
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  2. afire

    afire Country Gent

    Nope.
     
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  3. Willie D

    Willie D Gretschie

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    I was married to her just shy of 21 years.

    Confronting her now works about as well as it did then.
     
  4. Ricochet

    Ricochet Gretschified

    Nov 13, 2009
    Monkey Island
    If it's so bad or wrong you need to confront someone, things will never be as before anyway. There is as much to loose as there is to gain. Not saying you shouldn't, but perhaps temper your expectations of a "weight relieved" outcome.
     
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  5. wabash slim

    wabash slim Friend of Fred

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    Life's too short.

    I just forget them. I don't want someone like that living in my brain.
     
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  6. ZackyDog

    ZackyDog Country Gent

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    Do you know where French Lick, IN is?
     
  7. TV the Wired Turtle

    TV the Wired Turtle Gretschified

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  8. BrianW

    BrianW Gretschie

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    I have to agree that feeling a desire to confront someone (assuming the confrontation is in a negative way) after years sounds a lot like years worth of wasted energy. Best to make a complete break (oh my, that could be the "confrontation" I guess...) and move forward. Very difficult to just let it go, I know. But better off for it. Sorry about the sermon - but having been there....
     
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  9. audept

    audept I Bleed Orange

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    If someone ever tried to treat me badly I confronted them on the spot at the time. You can't afford to let that behavior get entrenched.
     
  10. Ylikessu

    Ylikessu Electromatic

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    +1
     
  11. thunder58

    thunder58 Gretschified

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    I'm originally from The Bronx .... you get in my face , I'm gettin' in yours .
    But I'll never be the guy to start the argument .........
     
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  12. Ebidis

    Ebidis Gretschie

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    It depends greatly on who it is and the circumstance.

    If it's a parent who treated you badly while you were a child, then you would have been powerless to stop them.

    I had a wicked step mother from the time I was 4 years old that treated me like dirt. Since my dad died (when I was 46), I have nothing to do with her.
     
  13. benjwri

    benjwri Country Gent

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    Most of my confrontations were around work. Got fired a couple of times and walked out a couple of times. But to my credit it wasn't always or only about me. When I saw something that wasn't fair...
     
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  14. Willie D

    Willie D Gretschie

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    Living well, being happy, enjoying life is the best revenge.
     
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  15. gtttrrr

    gtttrrr Synchromatic

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    Yep, very cool part of our state.
     
  16. gtttrrr

    gtttrrr Synchromatic

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    Didnt know bout the GreGret roundup, mighta made that,, only 40 min drive...
     
  17. BrianW

    BrianW Gretschie

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    Very true.
     
  18. wabash slim

    wabash slim Friend of Fred

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    I do. North Judson is in the South, South Bend is in the North, and French Lick ain't what it sounds like, either. It's one of those places that "you can't get there from here."
     
  19. Synchro

    Synchro The artist formerly known as: Synchro Staff Member

    Jun 2, 2008
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    It sort of depends, see below.

    I thought that was one of the smaller conference rooms at Nocturne Pedals. :)
    Very true.
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    Some years ago, I was shifted but good by persons whom I trusted. I had always wanted to confront them, but never had the opportunity. Eventually, I realized that these individuals were simply not trustworthy, nor whom they claimed to be. Once I realized that justice was not going to impress them it quit bothering me. I had won, because I was on the side of justice, what else matters?
     
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  20. wabash slim

    wabash slim Friend of Fred

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    There were folks who treated me horribly at work. They've since been fired, their lives have gone downhill. I didn't have to do a thing.

    Karma works.
     
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